My Life – A Year of Firsts

2016 was the year I decided to bust out of my blah life. I was READY to experience things. I read the book “I Dare Me: How I Rebooted and Recharged My Life by Doing Something New Every Day” by Lu Ann Cahn and decided that once a month was my goal. A friend and I made this our New Years resolution.

The year and this practice exposed many of my insecurities and showed me what I could do if I didn’t let my fears control my decisions. I have traveled many places since I was a child, but have always been reserved or flat out afraid to put myself out there, try things that felt threatening to me. While travel in 2016 gave me a lot of new experiences, the things I chose to do while at those places was me stepping outside my comfort zone. The work things stretched my view of myself and what my knowledge and experience is worth, it helped me figure out my version of imposter syndrome.

If you give yourself anything this year, give this a try. Start small or go all in. Do what you can. Eat different foods, read different books or magazines, go to different parks, explore your neighborhood, city, state, country. The best gift you can give yourself and your people is to explore and live. Shake up that routine and see what you discover.

Some of my Firsts:
Drove to Nevada- 4000 miles round trip
Toured the Hoover Dam
Slept in Winslow, AZ and Amarillo, TX – anyone singing yet ; )
Crossed the Mississippi River awake
Vacation in another country – Cancun, Mexico
Catamaran ocean sail
MiHIMA Conference – National work conference, networked and put myself and my skills out there.
Kayaked the Pere Marquette River
Gypsy Goddess Festival – had my first tarot & palm readings
Started a new job
Electric Forest – electronic music festival
3 week work training that led to 3 weeks of brewery & restaurant tours in Grand Rapids, MI
Wine tasting tour in Traverse City
Magoon Creek Park – discovered this Lake Michigan beach park
Weekend tour of the middle of the Michigan UP including Canyon Falls and Munising
First in-person football game ever – U of M vs some team from Florida
Irish Music Festival, Muskegon MI
Denver, CO – Rocky Mountains
Lindsey Stirling @ Red Rocks Amphitheater
Lewis Farm Market & Zoo
Party bus – old grey hound converted, DJ and dance poles
Ate sushi and used chopsticks
Bronner’s Christmas Village
Auburn Hills Aquarium

My Life – An Introduction

My Life – An Introduction

Sunday, June 20, 2021
5:36 PM

Hi, my name is Sarah. I’m currently a woman having a human experience. I’m following the Shamanic path, practicing sound therapy, and spiritual life coaching. I have struggled with sharing my history as I haven’t wanted pity, judgement, or any kind of negative impact on my growing business. On the other hand I think that my history is what gives me credibility in connecting and understanding. With these thoughts in mind I have decided to share parts of my life, the experiences that have shaped my way of thinking and being.

I will be blogging my experiences as they come to me, in no chronological order. I’m a pretty open book, so if you have questions please reach out, if its something I can share I will. If its something that resonates and you want to connect to talk about how to handle a similar situation I’m available for appointments.

How Do You Worship?

I recently had a conversation with my young-adult employees about the differences between worshiping and praying to deities, teachers, guides, gods, goddesses, or Divine Source. In this spiritual realm it is common to say “I pray to (insert name of preferred patron/god/goddess/ascended master) for guidance”. The conversation was insightful for me because I have never taken a good look at my boundaries around this subject.

I “worship and pray” to Divine Source, both God and Sophia, as well as Gaia. I start most of my days and all of my ceremonies with a prayer to them for Divine truth, love, and wisdom to guide me.

My guides, guardians, teachers and ancestors, these I talk to, ask for guidance, as well as give thanks and tribute for their support. They are masters of their craft for sure and Divine in their own right, but I do not believe they are Source Creator. Is that worship? To me it is not. I believe there is One Divine Source of all creation.

Do my boundaries get blurry? Absolutely. This conversation helped me realize I have a pretty firm belief system and define how I practice. There is no right or wrong in how You practice. There also is no rule saying it has to stay the same your entire life. That is the beauty of this human adventure, free will and the ability to experience life the way you want it.

We are all Divine, it’s right there inside of you.

Live Your Best Life,

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Feelings, Emotions, Reactions – How to break the habit of reacting and start responding.

When you have a situation that makes you happy, joyful, excited, sad, angry, anxious, disappointed, or any feeling you experience – It. Is. All. You. It is a good time to learn how to own your emotions, your feelings, your reactions. Your re-actions are learned and become an ingrained, no-thought habit over time.

Think of this as breaking a habit. Is it simple or easy to break this habit? Kind of. The level of work depends on how much importance you put on how others effect you. If your reactions or feelings are always based on other people’s actions then you may have a bit of work to do to break this habit.

It’s a good time to feel your own feelings, not manipulated feelings based on the words or actions of other people.

Personally, I am a work in progress. I’ve come a long way over the past 20-ish years of working on this. My outer reaction is controlled when my emotions are triggered. I have learned to listen, then ask questions to figure out what is going on with the person I’m interacting with. I take time to respond, practice the pause. Guess what? 99% of the time whatever they have going on that is triggering me, has nothing to do with my actions. Practice the pause? But it’s the heat of the moment, I must get my 2 cents in there or it won’t be heard and I am right! Contrary to popular belief, you can take your time to work through your reaction and come up with a response. Or choose to not respond at all because 99% of the time it’s not about you.

So, what does that mean? If 99% of interactions with others have nothing to do with my actions, what is causing my emotional reaction? Huh. Wait for it… It’s ME! My baggage. My expectations. My conditioned reactions. My emotions and feelings. It is a continuous exploration of self to figure out why you are feeling disgusted, disappointed, angry, sad, anxious, excited, happy, joyful. Our conditioned re-action is easy enough to fix with a little self-awareness and one simple question.

It’s as simple as asking “why?”. Why is this person in my face? Why am I so excited? Why am I disappointed? When you have the answer to the first question ask why again. Why is this person angry? If you don’t know why start to really listen to what they are saying and let them run out of steam. This is your opportunity to practice the pause then respond. Once you have figured out that it is not personal its time to ask yourself why you took it personally. What triggered your emotional and feeling reaction and shut down your thinking ability?

If this is an abusive situation, get help. Immediately. This technique does not apply to abusive or potentially physical situations. Ever.

I’ve noticed that feelings have been narrowed down to base emotions, reactions have been pared down to a base emotion – happy, sad, anger, grief, fear, disgust, surprise or the new slang “triggered”. Outside of emotions is a huge array of feelings to describe our experience. Did you know there is a difference between feelings and emotions? There is. Emotions are bodily reactions activated through neurotransmitters and hormones released by the brain. Feelings are your interpretation of the emotional (physical) response, they are your re-action. Think of the fight, flight, freeze reactions, they are instinctual. Now think about how people are trained to experience those emotions but respond in exact opposite ways. Fortunately, this isn’t boot camp 😊

Learning to distinguish what you are feeling, the nuances, is incredibly important in breaking this habit. You need to be able to figure out your emotions and feelings to break the re-action habit. If you are interested, do an internet search for “emotion wheel”, there are plenty of free pintables to be found that break down base emotions into the feelings we experience.

If you want to get out of the emotional spiral of always reacting you must learn how to practice the pause to respond.

  1. Pause
  2. What am I feeling and why?
  3. Does it have anything to do with me?
  4. Do I want to engage in this event with this person?
  5. Respond

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A mantra meditation to help let go of the re-active self, to ground down into your true loving self.

The Spiral of Healing & Learning

As a child it was common for beautiful bright colors to swirl behind my eyelids whenever I closed my eyes. As a young adult I started to find those swirling colors to be a nuisance that kept me from falling asleep. I set about swallowing the swirling colors with blackness. Over many years of practice, I was successful.

Skip forward a few years and my young daughter comes to me asking about swirling colors behind her eyelids that keep her from falling asleep. I tell her my technique and off she goes. She is successful in an amazingly short time.

Skip forward 25ish years and I am shocked at what I have learned about those swirling colors and their significance, and I mourn all the lost time I could have been working with them. Then I think of my daughter and the disservice I did her by teaching her to suppress them.

This morning, out of nowhere, this memory came up. What I now know is that my lifetime up until 8 years ago was shielded from learning the esoteric and metaphysical for a purpose. The purpose is that I had a full spectrum of emotional and physical life experiences in my short 44 years. I wonder if I would have had the same growth if I had easy access to the spiritual tools that I had to work so hard to find and develop? I don’t think so. As for my daughter, I now recognize that she is a powerful force who is walking her lifepath as it is intended.

We are all walking our chosen path. Listen to your higher guidance and follow the path that feels right in your heartspace.

Blessings to you throughout your human experience.



Why aren’t you happy?

In numerous encounters this past week I had the privilege to chat with beautiful humans about happiness. And it came down to this…

Why aren’t you happy? This world is chock FULL of choices, options, opportunities, yet so many are living unhappy lives.

We have such a short time in this current human existence, why are you unhappy? Why do you keep making choices that do not serve your highest good and happiness? Why deny yourself happiness? The reasons, excuses, are plenty, but truly, we have such a short time here. Try to find your happiness.

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Numerology & My Math Trauma

The math struggle is real for many of us. I remember the humiliation that caused my trauma and fear of math. It was third grade, my math teacher called me out for not grasping the higher multiplication tables. He said I was holding up the entire class. That one brief, off the cuff comment was humiliating and has affected many areas of my life, but this is about numbers and math.

The remainder of my K-12 experience was not a fun math experience. I mercy passed the bare essentials. My last math class, the instructor realized I was transposing numbers in almost every problem. Dyslexia wasn’t a thing yet. I did double the work as he would circle the ones that were jumbled and let me fix them, so I could get a decent enough grade to graduate high school. Bless that teacher for giving me a glimmer of hope.

I was not eager to repeat the math trauma at the college level. I put it off. I have attended college off and on for the better part of 30 years. It wasn’t until the very last year that I tackled the math requirements. I was still intimidated and afraid. I passed! With a B average grade! It took ALOT of work, tutors, and Khan Academy to get those grades. I was proud of myself and it opened my eyes. Traveling the college math road I realized how often we use numbers in everyday life. My trauma and subsequent phobia of math disappeared. I made my peace. I still have to double check my work and remind myself that I can do this math stuff, but not nearly as often. Peace was made and numbers started to show me their magic.

This week I obtained my certification in Numerology! It is fun. It is intriguing. It is math! And I pursued it with no thought of having to do math, to manipulate numbers. It was purely the amazing way numbers show up in every moment that intrigued me into taking the course. It was during my final test chart, as I dug through a pile of scratch paper to find my notes, I was reminded of my college math year. I smiled and patted myself on the back. Oh the paths we take when we get out of our own way.

Remember when you were a kid?

This meme shook something in me. We’ve all seen it and maybe even said it. This time I experienced an Ah-Ha moment.

Why do adults respond this way? How did we lose our childlike fascination with the smorgasbord of options being an adult offers us? Why did we allow ourselves to be buried in a pile of cynicism and jaded view? Big questions. Until I started working through why this small, cynical, jaded string of words struck a chord in me this time, I never realized I’d been working on this for 30 years, pecking away at societal expectations, familial expectations, personal expectations so that I could live my authentic life and attempt to instill that way of being into my children. This meme opened the curtain for me to peer inside to the niggle that caught my attention. What I found was a bumpy path of bucking the system most of my adult life. Finding my core strength to stand up and say Enough! to all of the things that sucked the life out of me and my children. It started with baby steps and evolved into an almost instant knowing of what lights me up with joy, excitement, inspiration, and love. This path restored my childlike excitement for the smorgasbord of options this life offers. I rarely say no anymore because I have freed up committed time to things that do not serve me.

This brings me to the second reckoning this exploration brought me.

Let me start with this; trust me when I say I was not the perfect parent. I stumbled my way through raising 2 kids who by Divine grace and my best efforts are kind, contributing adults. I have questioned how, but have learned to accept that they just are, no need to question it.

I tell you this because I feel that the way we are raising our children, needs serious consideration. If our children are so eager to become an adult what does that say about their childhood? What are they experiencing that they want sovereign control over their life? Are we implementing to many rules? Do we need to turn off our helicopter tendencies and let our children make choices and experience the consequences? Is our expectation and often verbalized “just grow up!” resonating in a way that implies we do not want them to be children for long?

My best advice is this:
1. Choose your battles, not everything requires aggressive parental response.
2. Ditch 90% of your rules. You will be happier and so will your kids.
3. Let them decide, even if you know better. Choices help them figure out life on their own, and isn’t that the point, to have them grow up to be capable adults.
4. If it doesn’t light them up let it go, let them be a child.
5. Quit over scheduling them. See #4.
6. Play. You. Get down in it. Show them how you like to relax.
7. Ditch the expectations that don’t serve you or your family. Yes. You can.
8. You can choose. For you. For your family. You have unlimited choices. Let go of self-imposed limitations.
9. Revisit things you liked to do as a child. Can’t think of any? Take a turn at what the children in your life like to do.
10. Love. Your. Life. We have such a short time here, we owe it to ourselves to make this go’round The Best Day Evah!! (My grandson’s go-to phrase when he is doing something he’s never done before).

Thank you for sticking with me through this one. It was a bit of unpacking old beliefs and recognizing that I got this. And you can have it too. Click here for a Spiritual Guidance and Exploration consultation call.

Peace & Love,

Bad Ass Boundaries

With the current state of affairs I’ve had the opportunity to talk with many people about who, what, why they are in the emotional state they are in.

Boundaries keep showing up.

What are boundaries?

Do you use them to keep people out or to keep yourself in?

For me boundaries are more about keeping myself contained, protected, humble, kind, present and are a constant work in motion.

For instance, its rude to be part of a conversation but playing with your phone the entire time someone else is talking, this personal boundary is “be polite to others” and be present.

Or, not saying the first angry thought that pops into my head in any triggering situation, this personal boundary is my commitment to good communication and self-control of my opinions. Opinions are like assholes, everyone’s got one but I dont necessarily want to see (or hear) it.

Boundaries should be yours, applied to yourself. Not yours applied to other people’s behavior, looks, opinion, status, etc. You have no control over other people so set healthy boundaries for you and worry less about that other person. For instance, one of my biggest pet peeves and a boundary I have had to set for myself is people wasting my time. It’s on me to draw back and say I’m out, I am not giving this situation any more of my time. I could sling words at the other person, get them to acknowledge they are wasting my time, but convincing them is wasting even more of my time. I choose to put my boundary into play by politely saying my time is valuable and this does not make good use of it, I’m done now. Make your boundaries apply to you and life will be less stressful.

Boundaries to keep people out are a little tricky. Self-protection, it’s important but to much and your bubble is not letting any of the good stuff in. Are you using it out of fear, conditioning, lessons learned? And is it valid? When we have a fear, anger, trauma response it is easy to put boundaries into place that do not serve our highest good. That is the ego working hard to keep the bad thing from happening again. Whittling those responses down to the source and discarding as much as you can is important to your well-being.

Learned boundaries of bigotry such as racism, classism, or stereotypes are notions about what is wrong, harmful, or out of place in Your life, not the person you are judging. That boundary’s only purpose is to divide you from your earth-mates.

Figuring out Your bad-ass boundaries will take work, but the end result is worth the effort. With less to defend and judge you will have more time to BE in the current moment, enjoying the opportunities brought to you by this amazing human adventure.

If you are ready for a deep dive into exploring your boundaries I can help. Click here to schedule a Spiritual Guidance & Exploration consultation call.

Stand UP! Wake UP! Show UP!

My friend was talking about the current state of affairs and what is coming. She asked, “where will you be standing when the dust settles?”

I have had several epiphanies through our 2020 experiences to date. The past couple days of watching our cities burn and our people cry out in despair, fear, and rage, followed by this question, where will you be standing when the dust settles…

Consider this…
2020 lessons will continue until the majority find their heart center and wake up. Everything that has happened, is happening, is to open eyes and hearts. Let this year of chaos inspire you to reach out to your fellow man in support. More rage, seclusion, pulling back is not going to “fix” us, only open eyes, open arms, open hearts and a willingness to SHOW we are open to each other will fix us.

If you think this is naive, foolish, head-in-the-sand, Pollyanna, or impossible you might need to sit with yourself and figure out why you feel that way. Call me for some spiritual coaching to find your heart center and what has you all tangled up in there. We CAN take care of each other like reasonable, loving, kind human beings. If you are always waiting for the other person to be first, no one is ever first. Take the first step, reach out in support however you can. Stand UP! Take the first step. Be a kind, awake, aware human.

Peace & Love,